Demi Lovato sat down with Jane Fonda on her podcast 4D With Demi Lovato to discuss how their transition to being non-binary came in phases and how one of those included her shedding their old self away through the cutting of their hair.
Of course, the former Disney star has a face that seems to look great with any hairstyle.
Fans have seen them with long flowing waves, blunt bangs... and they even sported blonde for a while! However, following their announcement of identifying as non-binary earlier this year, they have been rocking a range of shorter, less feminine styles, ranging from a pixie cut and a blunt, pink bowl cut.
But the most recent is a choppy mullet which they debuted at the iHeartRadio Music Awards earlier this month alongside a gorgeous velvet suit.
It was a drastic difference to the feminine, long-haired old Demi and as we've all recently found out - it was intentional.
During an interview with Jane Fonda on the June 16th episode of 4D With Demi Lovato, they said the short look was a way to distance themselves from gender norms and expectations. Something which they believe was a big part of why they have struggled in the past, as they weren't accepting who they were.
Together, Lovato discussed the process of coming to terms with identifying as non-binary and choosing to reflect that with their hair.
Fonda and Lovato spoke at length about how deeply engrained the expectations of the patriarchy run for everyone.
From dictating appearances, attitudes, privilege, and control, Lovato spoke about how they came to terms with being non-binary through a set of phases, the first coming from a poetry performance and the second coming from a year and a half of "healing and self-reflective work."
"I think it came in two tiers for me," Lovato said, "I think the first tier was going to a friend's poetry slam show that I identified so profoundly with, because they were talking about not conforming to genders and identifying not as male or female. And when I heard their take on that, I identified with it so much that I thought to myself, 'Ooh, there's something here, there's something that I've never known about my entire life but it's clicking now. And I need to research this. I need to do more work, I need to sit with this.' So I did, I sat with it for over a year."
Lovato went on to explain that the new hair was a part of that transition so they could "shed" the gender norms they faced as a kid.
"The more I sat with it, the more research I did... the reasoning behind me cutting my hair off was because I was shedding all of the gender norms that had been placed on me growing up female in this world," they said, "And I just always found that men were at the root of pushing their agendas on me, to be a sexy pop star, to - whatever would make other people the most money. And I had to break that mold because I had to find the freedom for myself in order to survive - to live."
Lovato also said that their near-fatal and public overdose in 2018 helped them reflect on multiple parts of their life.
Through their recovery process, they realized that they had to live the way they wanted to, not by expectations established by society or the patriarchy.
"There was a voice inside of me that said: you're not living, and if you don't start living your life for you, it's going to be your demise," they shared with Fonda, "So, I woke up and I thought, you know, I'm gonna live my truth. And no matter who it scares, no matter who in the patriarchy it shakes, I'm gonna live my truth for me."
It's good to see they are finally at peace with who they are!