Family Accuse Dad of 'Robbing' Experience of Holding Baby | 22 Words

Family feuds are more common than we think, and they can spark at any time. But this family argument started after the father of a baby wouldn't let anyone hold the baby until the mother had woken from surgery.

The father, who posted the story on Reddit, explained how although it all started pre-pandemic, it is still causing a rift between him and his relatives.

"My wife gave birth to our son in November 2019. She had a very complicated pregnancy and ended up needing an emergency c-section which we were aware could happen.

"We had talked about it for a while and she admitted hating the thought she would be the last to hold our son."


"So when he was born and she was still unconscious I did not allow anyone in our families to hold him, or even meet him really. They saw me but that was about it. She was unconscious for 4 days but thankfully, she recovered and was able to meet and hold our son," he explained.

"It was about a day after everyone else got to meet and hold him for the first time. Our families were upset but nothing really kicked off except for my mom and sister who were kinda pushy about it."

He then explained how it wasn't until January where the incident was taken to a new level after his wife posted some photos of her and their son on social media.

"My wife put up some photos of her holding our son for the first time and talked about how traumatic the birth had been and wanted to raise awareness of how dangerous pregnancy and birth can be and basically just saying how grateful she was to have them both be okay.

"My mom and sister then really started acting like kids. Saying it wasn't fair and we robbed them of those first few days with their grandson/nephew.

"I told them plenty of people meet grandkids and nieces/nephews days or even weeks or months after birth and had this been Covid times it would not have happened for a lot longer. But they said I was selfish and should not have done that just because my wife couldn't meet or hold our baby."

He finished the story by pondering that his only conflict with the situation is that someone else had suggested he had robbed his son of early interaction.

"I am only conflicted on this because someone else suggested I robbed my son of having more interaction early on and I should have thought of him over my wife's feelings on the whole thing and while most of me is screaming hell no, I wanted to see what a bunch of internet strangers would think."


Commenters were swift to assure the new father that he wasn't a bad person for waiting for his wife to be well enough before they presented the baby.

"She made him!! Of course she has the right to bond with him first, the mother and sister need to get a grip," one person said.

Another said "Can we normalize people being "selfish" over their newborn? It's normal for parents to want to relish in their new family as a unit, and I'd imagine it's good for their psyche too. Good on you OP!"

"They lost nothing waiting a few days. This was profoundly important to your wife, who endured a great deal of physical trauma bringing him into the world. Of course you needed to honor her wishes," wrote another.

Another highlighted the risks for newborns in those first few days: "Newborns should not have too much interactions for the risks of contracting disease. And they are not toys."

What do you think - would you have waited for your partner to wake before you introduced the family?