Gay Throuple Say That Parenthood Is Like Winning the Lottery | 22 Words

A polyamorous gay throuple have spoken about their history-making experience of parenthood.

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Now, people express love in different ways...

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And for many, expressing their love isn't always exclusive to just one person.

These days, more and more people are considering themselves to be polyamorous.

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Polyamory is defined as loving more than one person, and it is often mistaken for an "open relationship."

A lot of people feel unfulfilled in a single relationship...

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In reality, polyamorous relationships are unique in that they are comprised of multiple, loving partnerships.

Many struggle to characterize a polyamorous relationship, however...


According to New York City relationship expert and author Susan Winter, a polyamorous relationship is often “characterized by a primary couple that openly (and with mutual consent) engage with other romantic partners. These sexual liaisons may be enacted as a couple, or independently."

These types of relationships differ depending on the person...

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For some people, a polyamorous relationship involves being in a relationship with multiple people but having one main partner. For others, polyamory is the possibility of being in 2 completely separate relationships.

And while polyamory works well for a lot of couples...

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It doesn't come without it's difficulties.

One of the biggest difficulties for those in a polyamorous relationship is society.


Unfortunately, there are many people out there who are still unaccepting of polyamorous relationships.

Society is in some ways not set up for polyamorous relationships...

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As one throuple found out when they had to fight to have their names on their child's birth certificates.

But now, $120,000 and several contracts later...

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They have made legal history.

People are loving their unconventional story...

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Doctor Ian Jenkins, and his partners Alan Mayfield and Jeremy Allen Hodges, all from San Diego, faced restrictive laws that prevented them from building a family through surrogacy.

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Ian and Alan have been together for seventeen years, since meeting during their medical residencies in Boston. They've been with their partner, Jeremy, who works at a zoo hospital, for 8 years.

But, after a lengthy battle in court, medical setbacks, and $120,000 on medical and legal fees...

They made legal history back in 2017 after a judge allowed all 3 dads to be named on the birth certificate of their daughter, Piper.

The trio, who are now parents to 2 children, daughter Piper, and son Parker, both conceived via surrogacy, broke a huge milestone for polyamorous families in the US.

But it wasn't easy.

Speaking to The Morning Show, Alan said: "The big challenge for us was the legal challenges."

"So with surrogacy you have to have a parentage order from the court, declaring who will be the legal parents."

"At the beginning, we weren't sure that we could all 3 of us on the birth certificate, so it became a court process."


"We argued in court - it was a pretty interesting, tense courtroom scene. At first, it seemed we were not going to be granted that, so we asked to speak in court and pled out viewpoint and the judge ultimately changed her mind and granted us legal parentage for our child before she was born."

Ian has explained their reproductive journey and legal battle to become fathers in his upcoming book titled, Three Dads and a Baby.

In his book, he writes:

"The fact that Piper has 3 parents is just not a big deal. I have 3 parents myself — my mother, father, and stepmother — and no one thinks anything of it... Some people seem to think it's about a ton of sex or something, or we're unstable and must do crazy things. [But] it's really remarkably ordinary and domestic in our house and definitely not 'Tiger King'."

He later adds that his children have no issues in understanding their parents' relationship, explaining that: "I'm Papa, Alan is Dada, and Jeremy is Daddy."

"We all bring something different. Alan is the best at reading books, with an accent and backstory for every character. Jeremy is the creative dad, who makes bath bombs and special lunches for the kids. Ian is often the family cook, and the resident fort-maker."

And, despite the scrutiny and challenges they have faced, the family couldn't be happier.

"I've got all these wonderful families accepting and loving us, and rejoicing in our children," Ian said, speaking to People Magazine. "We have 2 beautiful kids. I have 2 more partners than I thought I might. For me, it's kind of like winning the lottery."