Mom Tells Grandparents 'To Do Better' For Children's Consent | 22 Words

A mom has ignited a huge debate online after she claimed that she would not let her parents hug her child without first getting consent.

This has certainly caused fierce debate among the online parenting community...

Now, we all know how important consent is.

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But what about when it comes to our children?

Obviously, it's important to teach our children the importance of consent from a young age.

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A child must know the difference between a "yes" and a "no," and it is vital for their consent to be respected by their adult peers.

Even the little things count...

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Including having a kiss from a grandparent. Many have actually argued that grandparents should ask for consent before kissing or hugging their grandchildren.

Because if a child feels uncomfortable in any way...

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They should be allowed to speak out and say no.

A few months ago a parent sparked a huge debate about tickling.

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Tickling our kids is something seen as completely harmless by the majority of us parents, but now, many have deemed it inappropriate.

One mom started the debate with a fiery Facebook post about the issue.

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As per the New Zealand Herald, the anonymous mom explained that children should give consent before they get tickled by anyone, whether that's a parent, a grandparent, or a friend.

She wrote:

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"If the [kids] come looking for it/ask for it, they like it [tickling]. Stop when they ask you to stop." She then added that it's "all about consent" and that a parent should teach their children that it's "their body and therefore, their rules."

It was also pointed out that many young children "change their minds on a dime."

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"They will literally tell you to stop, then immediately ask to be tickled more. But generally, it's actually the best way to momentarily paralyze a toddler in order to get shoes on them."

It's a tricky topic to discuss...

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But naturally, it sparked a huge parenting debate on social media... and it's safe to say that opinion was extremely divided.

Many parents felt that the concept of asking for consent to tickle their children is ridiculous.

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They feel that it isn't at all invasive and it is just a way of bonding with their children.

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But on the other hand...

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Many parents agreed with the concept, and they feel that it is of the utmost importance to ask a child for consent before doing anything like tickling or hugging - because not everyone is comfortable with this kind of invasive contact.

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And now there's a similar debate.

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But this time it's about hugging.

One mom has gone viral.

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I said what I said... ##gentleparenting ##consent ##fyp

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For claiming that she does not let her own parents hug their grandchild without having consent.

Of course every parent has their own methods.

@brittanybaxter_x

Reply to @britwolfe13 I hope this makes sense ❤️

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But many people think this is a step too far.

The Australian parents, Brittany Baxter, went viral on TikTok.

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In the clip, she says:

"As a parent, I practice consent with my daughter and something's really been bothering me, so I thought why not take it to TikTok so we can talk about it.

"Can we please start normalizing the fact that kids do not have to kiss in front of adults? My daughter's almost two years old and I've been in the process of teaching her consent basically since the day that she's been born, and I find it really f**king unhelpful when the adults in her life are like 'What?! We have to ask for a kiss and a hug?', even though I've explained why multiple times."

"And then when she says no, they're like 'Oh she doesn't love me my feelings are so hurt' and then they proceed to overstep her body boundaries anyway."

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Reply to @lauraderian 🤷‍♀️

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"My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable and to make anyone feel more loved, it is not her fault and it's not my fault that the older generation hasn't taken the time throughout their entire lives to learn how to regulate their emotions so consent doesn't continue to be overlooked."

She concluded the video by simply saying: "Grandparents, do better."

Is this too far?