On Saturday, Reddit user u/IncessantlyBored asked: "What is a sign of a cry for help that isn't obvious to the average person?" which spurred people to provide important insights into what you should look for in someone if something is wrong.
One person, who goes by the handle u/Zestyclose-Pea-3533, said: "Reaching out and being overly nice to friends both close and casual with the hope that they will reciprocate and eventually ask them how they're doing, so that when they open up it's not about being a burden, but because they were prompted to do so."
Often, people are afraid to speak out in fear that they will burden those around them, but if someone reaches out to them and even lays the love on thick, it's usually because they need them to reciprocate that love.
Here is a range of signs that might not be obvious at first:
1. "Lack interest. Gamer all of a sudden no longer games? Gardener let his plants die? Social butterfly now hides in a cave?"
2. "Excessive drinking when they usually don't."
3. "When someone is constantly busy so they don't give themselves time to think. Also, when someone gives up on a lot of basic things like cleaning or washing up because they can't think about anything except what's bothering them."
4. "Purposely avoiding sad and difficult topics. Sometimes when a person is constantly feeling like shit the last thing they want to do is bring up more negativity when hanging out with people they enjoy being around."
5. "When someone has obviously been crying or tears up without apparent provocation, even in a very public setting, it can be a sign that they're in too much pain even to try masking it."
6. "Saying, 'I'm sorry,' for everything or taking the blame for things that shouldn't even have a blame."
7. "Oversharing and lack of filter go hand in hand with depression."
8. I"f anyone says they are FINE like that word specifically there is usually an issue."
9. "IIRC, The sudden positive mindset is a result of them thinking that their pain will be over soon."
10. "Sudden drastic improvement in the mood of a depressed person, it could be a sign they have a plan to commit suicide and feel better because they know it's gonna end soon."
To those who are supporting anyone who's going through a difficult period in their life right now, don't be afraid to give them the love they need. And to those who fear opening up about their mental health, talking to your friends, family, and loved ones or writing down your thoughts and feelings, can save you from your difficulties. Do not be afraid to reach out, this is not a permanent state of health, we promise it gets better.
You mean more to people than you know.
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255. Other international suicide helplines can be found at befrienders.org. The Trevor Project, which provides help and suicide-prevention resources for LGBTQ youth, is 1-866-488-7386. You can also text TALK to 741741 for free, anonymous 24/7 crisis support in the U.S and U.K from the Crisis Text Line.